Is Your Teen Troubling You How To Handle
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on | Oct 21,2012
Teenage falls between 13 years to 19 years of life. What they do in these important years of their life determines their whole future. Making good choices in relationships, career, health and overall wellness will set the pace of your teen’s entire life. During teenage they are often trapped in confusing feelings, thoughts and experiences.
Given you have a teenager have you ever bothered to look at yourself through their eyes? For parents of teenagers, communication can be a big challenge. During this age, both parents and teens renegotiate their relationship to each other. Keep those lines of communication open and continue to respect the transitions that you are both going through in your life.
Have a strategy to deal with your teen to correct behavioral problems. Here are few things to be kept in mind when doing this.
Be An Aware Parent
First step in dealing with this is to determine the root cause of the problem. It can be due to drug use, sexual exploration, criminal activities, ego or self-esteem issues.
Deal With Care
Express that you love them. Maintain a compassionate, caring bond with your teen. Let them know that you relate with their pain and this is painful for you as well. Never try to disengage from you teen. Focus on the teen you love, not on the behavior you don’t.
Watch For Problem Indicators
Keep an eye on problem indicators like falling school grades, lack of normal activities and other suspicious activities. Trouble might be around the corner.
Instill strength and Positivity In them
Don’t forget the positive aspects of their personality and accomplishments. Focus on their positive traits. Also never forget to bring it to your teen’s notice.
Be A Role Model
Stick to your integrity, try to set example for them. They really look up to you.
Try To Be In Their Shoes
Make an effort and see the world through your teen’s eyes. Don’t compare your time when you were a teenager with the present time.
A teen is a fresh new evolving person. So adapt accordingly. Let them bloom.
Let By Gones Be By Gones
Bury the past, once a problem is solved. Don’t make this worse by reminding the past again in the heat of arguments. Don’t get stuck. Instead make them understand that you still trust them.
Respect Them And Their Privacy
Don’t spy on their phone, internet history etc. Let them make their own identity. A healthy relationship encourages your teen to trust you with their secrets.
Be Firm In Authority
Be fun but be firm in your authority. In times of big problems, emergencies and dangerous situations assert your authority. Make them understand that you are still the “parent”, who will have the right to take final decision and in case they are on the wrong side they have to obey you.
Make Them Understand The consequences
Make them understand that they will have to face the consequences alone. Whatever choices one makes, they reap the rewards.